Here’s the deal: transitions can be rough. Transformations, shifts, going from one place to another, moving from one thing to another, letting go of one way of being for another are often not the most easeful of experiences. The truth is transitions are very often awkward, uncomfortable, and not so fun. Most of the time there is just no way around this (but below I give you some things you can do about it).
I’ve experienced this same phenomenon thousands of times, and so have you. Whether you are moving, ending a relationship, getting a new business into place, giving up coffee or another not-so-happy habit of yours, re-working your schedule, starting an exercise program, moving overseas—whatever transition it is, it’s often awkward, usually uncomfortable, and sometimes irritating because of these factors.
Whenever you let go of one thing for another—it requires adjustment. Shifting any kind of habit or pattern requires a let go of what was there before, which even if only because it is a habit, was comfortable. Then, you start to feel the vacancy that this particular thing left which leaves you wanting. Next you try to replace it with something else, which isn’t like what was there before so at first it can feel like trying to put a round peg into a square hole.
This sort of experience applies to so many things. Recently I’ve been undergoing two extreme transitions, one is growing a baby, and the second is having to give up sugar. When things came to a head for me, I had to remind myself of what I remind my clients of all the time: transition is awkward. It can be difficult. That doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be happening. It just means you are adjusting. Let yourself relax into the knowing that this experience (like all experiences) is fleeting, however uncomfortable. Accept the discomfort instead of believing or wishing it should be otherwise. Remind yourself that since this uneasiness does exist at the moment, fighting it is a useless waste of energy.
It won’t last forever, but in the mean time be gentle with yourself. Give yourself some other sweet comforts to compensate for the effort you are making in this transition—sweet words to yourself, a nice bath, time to yourself with a book, an evening with a soothing cd— whatever works for you. Rest in the knowing that the discomfort of transformations is actually a part of the very positive change that you are making for yourself. Take heart knowing, the rewards will appear, even if you can’t see or feel them now.
Aimée Cartier is a professional intuitive (psychic), author, and speaker. You can schedule a reading or find out more about her work and her book (Getting Answers, Using Your Intuition to Discover Your Best Life) on her website:www.spreadingblessings.com. You can also get on her mailing list to receive regular blessings and inspirations in your email box.
