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Life isn’t about accomplishing things… for those who aren’t getting as much done as they would like.

spreadingblessings — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 23:36:47 +0000

If I were to keep a list right now it would be miles long of all of the things that need to be done. Everything from weeding and planting in the garden, to putting laundry away, to changing sheets, and making food, to blog writing and office work. I have a two-month old baby. And of the short list of 3-4 things I would like to get done each day, I’m lucky if one gets checked off.

As I was standing in the garden the other day experiencing frustration at the realization that yet again I wasn’t going to get anything done, I thought to myself “you know what, the truth is I just can’t get that much done right now and I can either get mad about it or accept it.” As I stood there looking at the roses that needed clipping and the bolting lettuce plants growing in my yard I thought, “Life must not be about accomplishing things. I know this because I can’t get anything done —AND I’m growing new life.”

But this experience isn’t just for nursing mothers. How many times have each of us encountered a day in which you got done a fraction of what you wanted to accomplish or thought you could do? I would say that is quite common. It always takes longer to do things than we think.

And suddenly it occurred to me in a whole new way, “It’s really not about what we get done. The list of things to do in life is endless. Once one thing is done, another appears. It’s really about enjoying it as we go along.” As little or as much as you can get done in a day, if you do it with a conscious feeling of enjoying what you are doing— you experience happiness. Your days, minutes, moments are worthwhile, this living feeds you.

As I walked into the house to fetch my son who was just waking up from a nap, I felt happy. Once I let go of the notion of what I needed to accomplish in a day, I realized I felt quite fine about what I was doing. Actually, I loved it.

So, if you’re having or have ever had the experience of not accomplishing as much as you’d like, remember the goal in life is not how much you get done, it’s how much you enjoy it along the way. What you are able to do varies, and is often not as much as you think. But how you go about doing it, is completely in your control, and in fact choosing to enjoy it, will make your life worthwhile, whatever big or little amount you are able to do.

Aimée Cartier is an author and intuitive. More about her and her work can be found at www.spreadingblessings.com. You can find her book Getting Answers: Using Your Intuition to Discover Your Best Life at Amazon.

Stay in the flow of vacation mode even after the vacation is over.

livingintuitively — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 15:32:59 +0000

Like most people, I took a break over the holiday weekend from work. For at least three days, but more like four I didn’t think about to do lists or things that I needed to get done. I had a small list of accomplishments to make on Friday related to my husband’s birthday and then I spent the next 3 days relaxing. I made crafts, visited with friends, went to parties. When I started up again on Tuesday morning I was feeling lovely and refreshed and far far away from my work.

As I dug back in again I found myself filling up the piece of paper next to my computer with loads of notes about things I needed to get done. Many of these items hadn’t even been on the list before, but now needed to be accomplished— and that’s not even mentioning the other projects I had been working on before the weekend. That’s when I started to feel that familiar twinge of not quite panic, but definitely not repose set in. As I felt my relaxed and easy vibe begin to fade, I was like, “Wait a minute! I’m not going to let go of this feeling.”

I wasn’t willing to be taken over by that frenetic energy that tells me I’ve got to speed up now or else, I wanted to continue moving at the speed that was comfortable to me, moving effortlessly from one thing to the next at a pace that felt whole and natural. Instead of panicking about what was on my list, I wanted to be able to trust that it would all get done. I knew that I could continue to be in the flow and move through the items on my list in a natural and easy way—I had done it before. That’s when I came up with my mantra.

Quietly I reminded myself, “There is more than enough time to get done everything I need to do.”

Just remembering that made all the difference. It kicked me back into the place of moving from that flow—of putting my energy whole heartedly into whatever I

was doing at the moment and trusting that when this was finished the next thing would not only be obvious but also just as easily accomplished. Try it. Just say it to yourself. “There is more than enough time to get done everything I need to

do.” Doesn’t it feel great? Go ahead say it again! It totally changes your vibration doesn’t it?

So if your looking to keep your vacation vibe while getting back to work, but not only that, to keep your present focus, moving effortlessly from one item on your

list to another, try that mantra on for size because you know what, there is more than enough time for you to accomplish whatever you need to, and knowing so can make all the difference.

Aimée Cartier is an author, intuitive, and speaker. More about her and her work can be found at www.spreadingblessings.com. You can also check out her Living Intuitively Blog where she posts these messages and a whole lot more!

Take Comfort in the Unkown

livingintuitively — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 19:15:04 +0000

Often when I have a lot of things to figure out, or I feel as though I don’t know exactly how something is going to work out I remember my simple motto: the mysterious is full of hope and promise. Time and again in my life I’ve seen that just because you don’t know how something is going to work out, doesn’t mean it’s not going to. So instead of getting anxious about the fact that I don’t know how something is going to pan out, I remember instead how many times in my life things have worked out better than I could have ever imagined. In many cases boons in which I hadn’t even thought of were part of the deal. Take my husband for instance. There are hundreds of things that I love about him which I won’t go into, but one of which I will.

He’s a nester. We live in a house that he bought 12 years before we even met. When he bought this house and started making it the home we enjoy today, I was living in a hut in Senegal in the Peace Corps. He spent years making it beautiful and soulful, all while I was off doing other things. My man is the kind of person that does house and yard projects for fun. If he had his druthers he would putz around the house and yard all day every day making cool things and spaces.

Thanks to him we have a spectacular garden, a beautifully landscaped yard, a scrumptious outdoor tub, a green house, a waterfall, a pond, nice shelves in our laundry room, pull out drawers in our cupboards, cool drying racks by our fireplace… I could go on and on.

Of course when I told the Universe I was looking for a true partner for me—someone who understood and valued me, and someone with whom I could have fun with and laugh often and easily—I didn’t even mention that I would like a super comfortable home filled with spirit and soul, and someone who cared about making it nice for us and our family. I wasn’t even thinking of that. But let me tell you, it suits me JUST FINE!

My point is this: on many many many occasions I have been surprised at the beautiful things the Universe has offered me—boons beyond my wildest imagination. I remember this when I come to a place in my life when I am not sure how things are going to work out. When I am making decisions about my career for example, or looking for the next best way to do something. I take heart knowing that time and time again, the unknown has brought me beautiful and luscious things that were far beyond my limited scope or vision. The unknown is not scary, rather, it’s full of rich promise and infinite possibility—you can count on it, I do.

Aimée Cartier is an intuitive, author, and speaker. She is the author of Getting Answers, Using Your Intuition to Discover Your Best Life. More about her and her work can be found at Spreading Blessings Media: www.spreadingblessings.com.

Claim your power to make positive change!

spreadingblessings — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 17:05:09 +0000

I spent some time with a friend lately who was making decisions from a really empowered place. Instead of looking at herself as the victim of a series of circumstances, she was taking charge of her life in a whole new way.

Her situation was this: her home was close to several companies that produce known carcinogens. Of course she didn’t know this a few years ago when she bought the house, but years later she was plagued night and day by the signs and smells from these companies. She spent months stewing about it, both recognizing the signs that she was breathing in toxic things, and worrying about it for her and her children, but also simultaneously coming down on herself for stewing in all of this negativity, and questioning whether she was creating it by all of this thinking about it. Then one day she woke up and realized that the truth and bottom-line for her: She didn’t feel safe in her own home. Whether the health detriments she saw in her children were related to these companies or not, these tortured thoughts were affecting her life in very real and negative ways. Do you know what she did? She made a decision to change it. She decided to move.

Suddenly, it became a no-brainer for her. She realized that even just the fact that it was eating her up at night was lifestyle choice she wasn’t willing to make anymore. She decided to choose something else. She decided to choose a reality where she wasn’t worrying about her children’s health. In a completely empowered way, instead of being the victim of her neighborhood circumstances, she decided to simply change her life circumstances by making the decision to move.

On the back of my business cards I have different blessings. One of them is “May you recognize your own power to bring about change in your life.” Another way of saying that is, “Claim your own power to make positive change in your life!” You can do it. Use my friend’s example. Your life is not about you being the victim of crappy circumstances, and if it currently is, then it’s up to you to change this. No one but you can do this. Look at the things that are not making you happy and then decide to choose something else. You are in charge. If you’re not happy in your home—move. If you are not happy in your job—get another. If you are not happy about certain relationships—change them. You are that powerful.

I’m not saying these things can happen over night. But I am saying that you do have the power to change them… you always have the power to change them. You might not find the perfect house to buy this summer, but you’re a lot farther away from it when you haven’t claimed your power to activate this change. You might not get a new job tomorrow, or even next week. But you’re certainly not going to get one if you don’t start looking. If something is making you unhappy in your life, decide to change it. In many cases, all it takes is your decision and then time. Use your power to change your life in positive ways—only good can come from it!

Aimée Cartier is a psychic, author, and speaker. She does readings by phone from her home in Washington. For more about her work, her book, and her readings you can visit her website at www.spreadingblessings.com.

68 seconds to a new reality!

spreadingblessings — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 22:43:25 +0000

I learned the other day that it takes 68 seconds of focus on something to activate that vibration in your body. Do this over a period of time, (a few hours or a days), and those thoughts become dominant thoughts, which then create your reality. Add this formula to my recent blog and create away! http://spreadingblessings.wordpress.com/2011/05/31/activate-your-long-term-goals-in-a-simple-and-easy-manner/

Aimée Cartier is a professional psychic, author, and speaker. More about her and her work can be found at Spreading Blessings Media.

The divine has an interest in you. Remembering your own personal spiritual cheerleading squad.

spreadingblessings — Tue, 07 Jun 2011 19:18:51 +0000

What if you were watched by benevolent beings who have an interest in your well-being? What if you had unseen cheerleaders watching from the sidelines of your life celebrating your victories, spurring you on when you need a boost, and encouraging you to take the path that’s best for you?

Well you do.

I can’t really explain this, but I’ve always been connected with the unseen. I am not the only one to have this experience, though I do recognize that this very real connection with the unseen is also specific to me. I can feel them in a way that others sometimes can’t. However, although it is true that not everybody has this experience, I believe it is true that every single one of us does have our own cheering team. When I do readings, I work with the benevolent and unseen beings that help me in my work. They give me information. They talk to the benevolent beings that are helping to guide my client’s life. My peeps, as I like to say, talk to my clients peeps. In images, knowing, or words they pass on to me the information that I need to know to serve my client. They help me understand what my client needs to know in order to achieve their best and highest life. This is the information that I give to my client.

Whether in my personal life, or in my professional activities, I am always clear about connecting with those that are in line with the highest good. But even outside of my work, I often feel a whole cadre of beings watching me, cheering me on, rooting for me, sending their love and concern when I am confused, guiding me to the next best thing. For me, this connection to the unseen is almost as tangible as what I see in front of my eyes.

But here’s the deal. If you don’t feel this—it doesn’t matter. Anyone can do this lovely technique: just pretend. It’s one of the techniques that I often recommend to people, especially those who are worrying about something over which they have no control. “Pretend it has all worked out,” I council, because inevitably it will. You won’t be waiting forever to find out if you got the job etc. Tomorrow will come and eventually you will have your answer. And if you take an honest look at your life you see that even when one thing didn’t work out, another (likely better) opportunity always presented itself.

You can use that same technique here. If you don’t feel connected to your personal spiritual cheering team—if you can’t feel them or sense them like I can—just pretend you can.

Pretend that you have your own personal spiritual cheering squad that is just completely concerned with your needs. How does this make you feel? Good? Supported? Cared for? Loved? Exactly. Well you are.

You can take my word for it—or not. There are unseen beings who are interested in your life. They wish you well and want to see you continuously choose the highest and best for yourself. And if you’ve lost your way for a bit in remembering that, or never had the sense of it in the first place I suggest you just remember or “pretend.”

Aimée Cartier is an intuitive, author, and speaker. She does readings by phone. More about her and her work, including a sign-up to receive inspirations via email can be found on her website: www.spreadingblessings.com.

Activate your long-term goals in a simple and easy manner.

spreadingblessings — Tue, 31 May 2011 21:00:09 +0000

Here’s the deal. I have several long-term goals but sometimes I forget to think about them. It’s true. Things are going along just fine in my life. I’m happy. I’m busy with my day-to-day things—I don’t worry about the future much. I trust it’s all happening wonderfully. I also don’t generally worry about whether or not things will happen later. I believe they will.

However, I do believe also that if I put a little attention on them, they would actually come faster. Instead of a year down the road, I think it is quite possible that with even just a few moments of thought each day, I could bring those experiences to me sooner. Focusing just a little bit of thought on them lets the Universe know that I’m serious about these goals, and that they are a priority for me.

I was talking about this with my husband yesterday. We have several long-term goals that we have identified—but I don’t think either of us really spends much time or effort thinking about them right now. I said, “Wouldn’t it be better and more powerful, if even for a second or two each day, each of us actually considered those goals?”

To keep it simple, I decided to start with just one goal. I identified the goal that I thought would give us the most bang for the buck—the one that when manifested would also fit nicely into several of our other long-term goals and life visions.

The next step was posting reminders. Because we don’t think about it very often, we need something to trigger our memory. Something that reminds us, hey, this is a good thing to think about while you’re standing there waiting for your toast to pop up. The bathroom mirror got one. My husband wanted one on his coffee grinder. I put up reminders around the house in places that we frequent with our goal written on them, and a posted note on each of our car steering wheels.

You can try this in several different ways.
• Post your question—like I recommend in my book—if you don’t know how to make it happen. For example, “Highest good, what is the best way for ________ to happen?”
• Post a question that implies the receiving of your goal—for example, “Why is it so easy for me to________ (insert goal)?
• Post a positive affirmation about the goal actually happening. “I am so grateful now that______.”
• Or post one of my favorite affirmation/prayers which I got from author Marc Allen: “In a relaxed and easy manner, in a healthy and positive way, in it’s own perfect time, for the highest good of all, I pray _____________ (goal). This or something better is manifesting now in totally harmonious ways for the highest good of all.”

It’s fun. It’s simple. The point isn’t to obsess about it, it’s really just to remember it in an easy way that is congruent with the ways that you are already enjoying and living your life. It can’t hurt you. But more likely than that—I believe it will bring your goal to you sooner than one that is sitting on the back burner hardly thought about.

Aimée Cartier is the author of Getting Answers, Using Your Intuition to Discover Your Best Life. She is a professional intuitive and speaker and the founder of Spreading Blessings Media. More about her work can be found at www.spreadingblessings.com.

Looking to reconnect with Source? Use the simplest technique possible.

spreadingblessings — Tue, 24 May 2011 20:10:55 +0000

Yesterday I rediscovered the beauty of getting silent. After a week of non-stop social engagements, I was feeling, well, over stimulated. Even though I loved seeing all of those people, sharing food and conversation, enjoying the blossoming of spring together, after 8 days in a row of it, I needed a rest.

But it was more than just a need to rest, I was craving a connection with Source.

So I used the simplest technique that I know of to reconnect to Source. I sat.

I just sat quietly. Sitting in a comfortable position, I closed my eyes and became very quiet. I listened for that part inside of me that has no words but much Presence. No matter what is going on, that place is there, even amidst the thoughts. There is a silence and serenity that pervades it. I’ve noticed that when I’ve been going and going, that place doesn’t go anywhere, but my remembrance of it and conscious connection to it does. In order to feel inspired and rejuvenated again, I need to reconnect to it consciously. I need to plug back into its Presence.

Within a matter of two hours I sat quietly twice, going inside to be with that place where my soul resides. The second time was sitting in my car on a ferry. I wasn’t anywhere special or particularly peaceful. Still, the result was amazing. It was as if everything else in life slowed down. The wanting and over done feeling was replaced by a feeling of happiness for this very moment. My every action felt luscious, inspired, delicious, and articulate. As I drove off the ferry even the act of rolling down the window and adjusting the radio felt lovely and sacred. Slowing down that much and focusing my attention inward brought me into the right now. The moment where I was, not the moment where I needed to be next, but the delicious feeling of being in my body, connected with my being, right now.

If you’ve been going and going and going, or craving a deeper connection with Source, or even just feeling over done and wrung out, use the simplest technique available: sit with yourself, hold the intention to reconnect to your soul. It works wonders.

Aimée Cartier is an intuitive, author, speaker, and the founder of Spreading Blessings Media. She does intuitive (or psychic) readings over the phone. You can sign up for her mailing list, or find out more about her work here.

For the worry wart.

spreadingblessings — Thu, 19 May 2011 23:35:52 +0000

Think about this: Worry is associated with warts. Those are not pretty things. If worry was a positive event it would be associated with something beautiful, like a flower.

I noticed recently that I was holding tension in my body related to certain upcoming unknown things (I was being a wart). “How is this going to work out?” I was asking myself. “How is that going to work out?” All of the things that I was wondering about were in the future. To me, they felt like loose threads that were just hanging in the air waiting for resolution. I was holding tension in my body because I didn’t know exactly how it would all resolve. Then something wonderful occurred to me: It wasn’t time for them to work out. Spending my time wondering, and especially holding tension in my body about them, was absolutely useless. Not only was it stressing me out, it was a complete waste of energy, because those events weren’t present yet, there was actually nothing I could do about it.

There are two kinds of future events: Ones that you can prepare for, and ones that you cannot. To differentiate between the two ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do about this right now to make this future event go more smoothly?” If there is, then do it. (If you need a new job for example, you can start looking, or brush up your resume. If you need a new place to live, you can start visiting available places.) And relax knowing that you are actually doing everything you can to ensure the best result.

If there isn’t, then move on. If there is nothing for you to actually do about it (if you are worrying about how someone else will react, or how something will feel to you in the future for example) then let it go. You won’t know until you get there, and thinking about it isn’t helping it become better. (If your stuck in these thoughts, replace it with the mantra, “Everything always works out even better than I imagine,” whenever you catch yourself thinking them.)

When I understood that it wasn’t time for those events to work out yet, in a flash I understood also that by the time those events arrived, the pieces that now felt like loose threads to me would be beautifully and perfectly woven, without any work from me. I really had no business even considering those things at the moment since they were to take place a couple of months down the road. And if I really reflect on it, pretty much everything in my life has resolved itself when the time was right. So do as I did, give yourself a break, let it go, and relax knowing that like everything else in your life, when the timing is right the moment will unfold.

Aimée Cartier is an author, intuitive and speaker. Her book entitled, Getting Answers Using Your Intuition to Discover Your Best Life is available on amazon among other places. She is the founder of Spreading Blessings Media and does intuitive (or psychic) readings by phone from her home in Washington. Subscribe to her mailing list here. Or follow her on Facebook.

Here’s the deal: transitions can be rough… what can you do about it?

spreadingblessings — Thu, 12 May 2011 18:17:38 +0000

Here’s the deal: transitions can be rough. Transformations, shifts, going from one place to another, moving from one thing to another, letting go of one way of being for another are often not the most easeful of experiences. The truth is transitions are very often awkward, uncomfortable, and not so fun. Most of the time there is just no way around this (but below I give you some things you can do about it).

I’ve experienced this same phenomenon thousands of times, and so have you. Whether you are moving, ending a relationship, getting a new business into place, giving up coffee or another not-so-happy habit of yours, re-working your schedule, starting an exercise program, moving overseas—whatever transition it is, it’s often awkward, usually uncomfortable, and sometimes irritating because of these factors.

Whenever you let go of one thing for another—it requires adjustment. Shifting any kind of habit or pattern requires a let go of what was there before, which even if only because it is a habit, was comfortable. Then, you start to feel the vacancy that this particular thing left which leaves you wanting. Next you try to replace it with something else, which isn’t like what was there before so at first it can feel like trying to put a round peg into a square hole.

This sort of experience applies to so many things. Recently I’ve been undergoing two extreme transitions, one is growing a baby, and the second is having to give up sugar. When things came to a head for me, I had to remind myself of what I remind my clients of all the time: transition is awkward. It can be difficult. That doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be happening. It just means you are adjusting. Let yourself relax into the knowing that this experience (like all experiences) is fleeting, however uncomfortable. Accept the discomfort instead of believing or wishing it should be otherwise. Remind yourself that since this uneasiness does exist at the moment, fighting it is a useless waste of energy.

It won’t last forever, but in the mean time be gentle with yourself. Give yourself some other sweet comforts to compensate for the effort you are making in this transition—sweet words to yourself, a nice bath, time to yourself with a book, an evening with a soothing cd— whatever works for you. Rest in the knowing that the discomfort of transformations is actually a part of the very positive change that you are making for yourself. Take heart knowing, the rewards will appear, even if you can’t see or feel them now.

Aimée Cartier is a professional intuitive (psychic), author, and speaker. You can schedule a reading or find out more about her work and her book (Getting Answers, Using Your Intuition to Discover Your Best Life) on her website:www.spreadingblessings.com. You can also get on her mailing list to receive regular blessings and inspirations in your email box.